I’m on a double decker bus for the first time in my life and I definitelly went to experience the second floor. I even found it more comfortable since the seats were larger than the ones on the first floor.
Anyhow, during my inaugural trip on this “new” transportation, a grandmother, mother and daughter sat close to where I was. The youngest one was around 2-3 years old. I did the guess since my daughter looked about the same and showing the “typical” toddler behavior to discomfort and property.
During this trip, I reflected on why toddlers behave as they do. My first conclusion was that their world and our world just don’t match. They try hard (scaled to their capabilities) and parents try hard (scaled as well to theirs) to teach them how to adjust. In the meantime, disagreement reigns.
But this is not just typical during the “toddler” years. This behavior appears several times during our “grown up” lives. Let’s face it, we don’t like to adjust to situations. We feel more comfortable when situations adjust to us.
So what happened to every toddler in the world? I believe that the world didn’t adjust to each and every one of us. We’ve learned (to some extent) through the years to adjust ourselves to it.
Let’s reflect on our day, how we did react to the different events that happened and, honestly, recognize those “toddler” reactions.
We can make small but substantial changes to our behavior. You can use those events as reminders to hold, and breathe. Let those frustrating feelings go with your breathe. Reconnect with yourself, and feel how you gradually recover the control of the situation. Then continue with your agenda.
Practice this as frequent as you remember. Very soon, this will be part of you with better possibilities to overcome/teach your internal child.